Monday

Monday!!
I hade a great night last night with Tadpole and Taggart! 2 of my wings and close friends.
Tadpole and I went tango dancing and then met up with Taggart to have a drink at my place.
One of the conversational threads that we stumbled upon was the
Losing Girl “Friends” because they end up liking us in the non friends way.
We talked about hating that conversation when you know that it is coming or when they throw it at you from out of nowhere!
I am open to your thoughts on this issue! So please post your thoughts..
I have been at this gaming thing for a bit now and have become the man that I am and like him. But I don’t know what to turn off when I am around women that I just want as friends to keep them as such. I am not a guy that goes in with the thought of game or anything like that when I am approaching women. I just go in as my self and be me and it works very well. I don’t treat women different from the next I don’t think. I don’t only talk to the hot ones I talk to the ones that no one else wants to talk to also. I think that being a Ladies man, a man about the town ,or a pick up artist is being social and I personally want to be Real above all else. I have met some guys that are not real! They are not that whole package, they are just a guy with inadequacies that have covered them up with a “patch” instead of addressing the issues of there inner self
I hope that I never fall into that!
ANYWAY I need to get some practice done so Let me know your thoughts.

Sunday!

Sunday!
I went to work and that was not that great!
But this is not about work so never mind.
I got a hold of hottie cocktial and told her sorry for passing out last night!
She then invited me to a B-day party that night with some of her friends.
Now the background on this!
On the night of the party we ended up in my room talking on my bed. I was checking my text messages when I was all of a sudden struck by this overwhelming want for a glass of water. Now while I was out getting that most delicious glass of life sustaining fluid, I heard my phone go off, I received another text. I had left my phone on the bed and open so that when the text came through it was just for anyone to see if they looked over. Well sure enough HC(hottie cocktail) looked over at the noise and read the message from what turnd out to be one of the girls she worked with. So when I came back the whole mood had changed and she started asking me about if I was seeing other women and how many I am talking to. I told her that I am a social person and that I meet a lot of people and that is not going to change. But that is not really the conversation that I should have been having because I was drunk! And those never really come out right. Well I woke up the next morning she was gone and I had no Idea how the conversation ended. (she told me later that I just fell asleep after I said that, Hahahah)
So we get to this party and I get introduced to the friends and such. We have a drink and are talking about all kinds of stuff when she says
“ It must make you feel good that every girl in here is checkin you out”
I look at her and say
“ME! No, no, they aren’t looking at me! They are looking at you!! Have you seen you!
HC “ You can go talk to them if you want, I know you like to talk to a lot of women”
ME
(Oh here it comes, not just the I am social person talk ,but the I see other women talk)” I don’t want to talk to them, I am here with you! Just because I see other women doesn’t mean that I want to talk to every women at the place. I think that you are beautiful, fun, witty, and over all GREAT! I really enjoy your company. This dose not change who I am and the guy you like. I was truthful with you because I like and respect you. I want you to know that that is the kind of person I am, and I am not going to lie to you.
NOW! That is not the exact conversation that we had because I can not remember the exact and the one up above is not as eloquent as it was put that night…… Sorry
She looked at me for a few seconds and then she kissed me! And the night went on as it had before the conversation started. I don’t know how this is going to turn out or not, but at least I know that I have done what it is that I set out to do!
I think that at this point at least I want MLTRs and if I do want that then I am going to have to be truthful with these women. I don’t want to have to have that conversation with them after we have been seeing each other for a bit and they find out and say that I have been lying to them. I don’t want to be that guy. I would rather be upfront and give them the respect they deserve to know what I am about, and the choice to stay with me or reject the thought of having a boyfriend that sees other women.
I want to have integrity when it comes to that. That way if they stay with me they can never hate me because of it or feel betrayed because I let them have the choice in the beginning.
I WILL KEEP YOU UPDATED ON HOW THIS IS GOING.

Saturday!!

Well look at this!! I am really updating this thing again, yeah I know it’s kinda cool.

OK again a lot has happened in my life since the last blogg.
So the cocktail waitress I told you about last week is pretty great, I would have to say. I talked to her a few times throughout the week and then sure enough she showed up at my party that we threw on Saturday night. Now this party was a big night for those of us that threw it. Because for one reason it gave us guys that are out sarging and putting in the work a chance to see if the connections we are having with these people that we are having social interactions with are real. By that REAL I mean if we are really making the attraction, the comfort, and all the rest of the things that we are supposed to, to make friends and lovers work or not. ( I am very happy to say that I had a great turn out!)

Ok and the second reason is that it gives us a chance to interact with them again, almost like a day 2 if you will. The 3rd reason is that it creates the Jealousy phenomenon! What that phenomenon is. You can be running game on a girl and just not really be getting the signs that she is into you, ( yes some of us still have problems with not having a girl just fall head over heels for us as soon as we walk up;) and then you start talking to her friend and get her to laugh and show just a bit of interest and BAM!! She is all of a sudden ready to take you home!! Or you have your pivot come over and hang on you for a sec and show just a bit of sexual interest and BAM, BAM!!! It’s on. Now that was my plan with this party, was to have all these girls over and talk with each of them and get the attraction going again and then move on and just work the room, so that I could work all these girls at the same time and play off of this phenomenon . That and I could see them all in one night instead of having to take a few weeks to get in touch with them all and set up a time to meet. Things were going well when I get the call from the cocktail waitress that she is almost to my place. I go down and meet her in the lobby and she is looking very nice! We go upstairs and back to the party and I introduce her to my close friends that haven’t met her yet and then we talk for a few minuets and I leave her and go talk with a other people and girls and such. Now I think that there were many girls that I could have worked this angle on that night, but it ended up working to well with the cocktail waitress and I ended up in the corner making out for most the night . NOT THAT I AM COMPLAINING!!! But I lost sight of what the night was all about.
BUT A GOOD NIGHT OVER ALL!!! A LOT OF FUN!!

Forgive me! A letter to a girl

I am a very busy person and one night I couldn't meet up with a girl that I had made plans with because I was teaching until late and got stuck at the school. I got an email from her the next day and she was very unhappy with me that I would do something like that, and that if I am like that she did not think she would want to see me again.
I wrote her back and told her I was sorry With this note that I saved because I liked it when I was done writing it *grin*

**Her name was here*
My heart is laden with a sorrow the likes of witch my soul hath never seen.
Sadness is my home, my life, I have made it my own misery
For how may I fain a happiness that is no part of who I am.
It is as though The light of my world has gone out
The life I used to know now dwindles and has begun to fade in the absence of your smile.
As though the moon no longer reflects the light of the sun
into the darkness that is my heart.
Tell me what must be done to win your forgiveness,
regain your trust,
and slay the daemons that haunt your mind and turn you from my face.
My sorrow at your anger is a thousand fold
I pray in Ernst that you could find it within yourself to forgive one such as I.
To the end
Your devoted and faithful
- Sifu-

and that was the end.
She called me that night and everything was fine! I was forgiven.
Now that note or poem or whatever you might want to call it might seam a bit cheese but it is congruent to the type of person that I am and the way that I talk, and carry myself. I have set my self up as that type of person since the very beginning of the relationship that we had.
So she was not thinking
* Oh what a dork now he is trying to write me poetry! LAME!!!*

Instead it was Sweet and heart felt (which it was) and that is why it worked.
It's the same thing with a women in the beginning of a pickup situation when you start talking to her and there is nothing physical during the whole interaction and then you try to kiss her at the end of the night and she is like WTF!! If you have not done the right KINO and work up to that kiss then things are not going to feel right and it is not going to be Congruent to the frame that you have set! And it wont be received.
So I guess what I am saying is Know the Kinda Person that you are and be that person! I you are Cheese be Cheese if you are kewl be cool if you are an ass Then Change *grin* No one likes an ass for long! If you have attracted a woman to you being the real you then continue to be that person! And the things that you do and say will be received.

This was a good and bad day for Sifu, I learned alot

Ok so I am going to let you all in on My Valentines night weather or not you really want to hear about it.
I started my Tuesday night Like I start every Tuesday night, With Tango!!!!
After that I met up with Cash, Tadpole, Taggart, and Aleece at this place called Mezcat. I can’t say that it was the kewlest place that I have ever been to, but it wasn’t that bad. Cash had picked the place and from what he had read it was supposed to be this great place for that night. But it wasn’t and we told him that he is fired and he no longer gets to pick the place that we go (hehehehehe).
After that we headed over to peaks Lounge (I love that place) so that Glen and Cash could see this girl that they met at another club that worked there. We had a drink and then they were closing so we had to bounce out and we headed over to Our favorite place,,,,,,, the great Purple Martine! It was going pretty well with a lot of people. We all kinda walked in and stood in a back corner scopin the place out for a sec. I then went to work ( If you will ), I went over and talked to the cocktail waitress that I have thought was a cute for some time now but never seams to be working when I go in. I got a drink from her and asked where she had been and why she has been hiding from me! She said that she hadn’t , I said she was lying! And that I had to go talk to some friends but we would continue this conversation later, she said your damn right we will! I then walked away and started chatting up the hottest 2 set in the place who ended up being to cocktail waitresses from Monark a few blocks away.
I am not even going to start on that Conversation because it was very long and a lot happened and I really don’t have the time right now to do it the right way. I will be back to get the fine little girls number in the Black dress though!!!!! ( Oh man, want to touch the Hinny )
I then see some other friends I know, who came up and were like OH MY GOD Sifu it’s so good to see you how you been Blah, bblah, bbbblah,,,,,, and talk with them for a bit while I am was still with the other 2 girls ( can you say Social proof!) . I then told them I was leaving and they said come in and see us at work and all that stuff.
Ok so I go back to the crew that I came in with and waived the hottie waitress over, and the conversation went like this.
To save the integrity of the this wonderful young lady we will call her the Hot stuff! Or HS for short.

Sifu- Hey you ! We can finish that conversation now!

HS- it is finished cuz I was never hiding from you! (hits me on the chest)

Sifu- ummm yeah, liar

HS- No REALLY I wouldn’t ever lie to you!

Sifu- ok, ok, ok, I believe you and am sorry for ever doubting you!

HS- Forgiven, but I am sure that the other cocktails would have told me if a charming young
man such as yourself came in looking for me.

Sifu- well they must not have! They probably wanted to keep me for them self’s cuz I am a good tipper and they wouldn’t want to loose me!

HS- hehehe I am sure it was something like that.

Sifu- what are you doing this Saturday?

HS- Nothing I am free.

Sifu- Great!!! Because I am having a cocktail party at my place this Saturday from 7 to 9 and would love it if you would grace us with your presence , wit and Beauty!

HS- I would love to!!!!!

Sifu- (At this point I pull out my phone and hand it to her)

HS- what do you want me to do with this (she says with a sly grin)

Sifu- well I don’t know if you have seen one of these before but it is called a cellular phone! And you can talk to people anywhere on them as long as you have a number to call them with. I have found that it is really a lot more convenient then smoke signals.

HS- Hahahahahaha,,, Wow! Well that sounds really neat! I think this one is mine (she put hers in the phone). You better call it right now and leave me a sweet message.

Sifu- I call the phone and say that I am standing right in front of this woman with beautiful brown eyes and am leaving this message because St. Valentine has destined that we meet on a beautiful night in the year 2006 of our Lord….. Blah blah blah…..

HS- OH that was very sweet!!!! And hugs me. I can’t wait to get to my phone and listen to it again!!!

Sifu- Well I have to go so make sure you are there at the party other wise I will never forgive you!!!

HS- I will be there! Make sure you call me and let me know where it is you live! You can also just call if you want. (another big hug)

Sifu- until sat. then.

We then left and went to Monark and I had one hell of a bad experience with a girl that I met in Vegas and then saw a few times here in Denver and then didn’t call back. Even though she had called me numerous times and I just never answered. I saw her as soon as her friend taped me on the shoulder. My heart sunk and I knew that I was screwed!!!!!
I totally deserved the talk that ensued after I saw her . I am not going to go into it very deep because it would be very long and I don’t think that any of you would really need to read it right now.
The long and the short is that I felt really bad for not returning calls from this girl that (really) likes me and that after we had slept together a few times never heard from me again. I told her that I am sorry and that I was wrong and that I will do my best to not be that guy! That dose that shit, because I don’t want to be him. I told her that I am not looking for a girlfriend and if she is cool with that then we could still hang out. She said ok.. Blah blah blah

THAT SUCKED SOOOOO BAD! I WILL NEVER DO THAT SHIT AGAIN!!! IF I DON’T WANT TO SEE A GIRL ANYMORE I AM GOING TO MAN UP AND JUST BREAK IT OFF! THERE IS NOTHING WORSE THEN SEEING A GIRLS THAT YOU HAVE BEEN AVOIDING (NO MATTER WHAT THE REASON) IT WAS MY FAULT THOUGH SO I GOT WHAT WAS COMING TO ME.
And then I went home and read my book for a bit and went to sleep.
Have a good day and I will see you soon

This was ment for MONDAY

Well good morning!
Please forgive me for it has been to long since the last time that I have bogged.
So much has happened since the first few days that I hade opened this that I don’t even really know where I should start!
I have met many wonderful women in the last few months along with some really great guys, I also opend John Elway and his girlfriend at purple Martine. So this is going to be a very short post but I am going to do my best to keep up with it this time.

Not the Best for a first try

So this is the Second Post in the same day! Don't get used to it, I just didn't have to work today so I have extra time to kill.
So I got ahold of my good friend MR. Tadpole himself ( I haven't ran the good friend thing by him yet but I am sure it will be ok) and we went out to do some day sarging on this fine Colorado day.
We started out Just cruisin down the 16th st mall area and talking and catching up since the last time we had seen eachother. We took the mall ride up to the Barns and Noble hoping we could catch some HB's on the way up, but alas to no avail!!!! We get to the book store and took a very thorough look around I would say, and I would know!! They used to call me Eagle eye back in Nam. Nothing! Nothing nothing!!!!! So we left.
We then went to a few clothing stores and I tried out a opener I came up with on the fly.

SIFU* (approaching hb 6.5) Can I help you find anything miss.

hb* No, thanx I am doing just fine, Just looking around right now.

SIFU* Well then maybe you could help me find something

hb* umm ok..............

SIFU* ( this is where I screw it up by being just a bit to strange for her to handle right off the bat) well I am looking for something a little slinky and short to show off my great legs *I smile & chuckle* But I haven't found anything that works for me yet.

hb* wow (she nerves laughs) that's kinda creepy

SIFU* Yeah I know, my style is a bit strange, I have been trying to change it for quite some time now, but to no avail. ( still smiling)

hb* OH......

SIFU* Gets the hell out of Dodge and ejected with a very smooth turn tail and walk away, Come to think of it I think that might have been the best part of the inter action, hahaha *

So looking back I see that the very first part of the interaction was good
* Can I help you find anything miss* because it was funny and anyone there could tell that I didn't work there. Even the second part was good * well could you help me then* but after that it kinda all just went to the shiter. I have realized that after talking to Tadpole and Alise (tadpoles friend and I guess I could say my newfriend also) that the rest was just a bit to over the top....
We talked to a few more sets and they just all bombed out!
I have come to the understanding that my day game is lacking!!!!!! I have spent so much time in the night clubs and lounges in the last few months that they are where my game is. I am going to change that Pronto!!! I am meeting up with a fellow sarging enthusiast tomorrow in Boulder and we are going to do some more day gaming. I will keep you posted.

The First day back In Denver for the new year

This is the first post this year! Yeah I know exciting stuff!!
I just got back from Montana from my little sisters wedding and I wish I could say that it was the best new years of my life, but I would be lying. It was nice to see all the old friends and family but other then that I can't say that Billings Montana has much to offer a young man such as my self.
I went out both nights that I was in Billings to do a little sarging, just to see what I was missing since the last time that I had been to the old home town. I can not say that I was very impressed at all with what I found. I worked about 4 sets the over the whole weekend while I was out in downtown. There was not anything over a 6.5 the whole time, I number closed on all 4 sets just for something to do. I felt kinda bad though cuz I knew I would never call..
But I am home now back in DENVER!!!!!!!!!!!!
So I am going to hook up with Greg C. and go out to 16th st mall and some of the coffee shops to get back into the groove, and then see a movie. Greg bought a small digi recorder today and we are lookin forward to tryin it out..